My situation with the Local Church

[OGOP]

Theres a couple things I think I need to address.

Firstly, I wanted to clarify that YES I have many grievances with how the LC handles relationships. Many of you have shared similar experiences and it is clear to me, whatever anybody else may be saying here, that it is a systematic aspect of the LC.

Originally Posted by Drake

True that there was a flurry that occurred of quick introductions and then vows in the early days in Elden Hall.. However, it did not become and is not a practice in the local churches. If that week true in this situation we are discussing then the sister would not have ever shown interest in the brother who opened this thread or else she would gave hid it from everyone.

My girlfriend is the exception (dating outside the LC), and the way our relationship has progressed (being without involvement from the elders) has been under attack from church elders from the beginning.

Nevertheless, my issues with the "church life" after my 18 month involvement reach FAR beyond the issue of dating. The "exclusiveness" of the culture, the biblical interpretations, all the controversies surrounding LSM, the FTTA, etc.
I do not want to raise my family in the LC.

I really need advice on where to go from here, and I'm not sure if anybody else here as found themselves in a situation in any way similar to mine. Even if you haven't, knowing what you know about the local church, how would you go about explaining to somebody who was born and raised in the "church life" about my concerns.

Here's what I'm leaning towards doing right now...

Rather than coming out and laying out all the facts about LC controversies and sharing some of the horror testimonies out there online about LC experiences, Im just going to ask her to check out a new church with me one sunday (after finding one), and then just take it slow and slowly expose her to mainstream Christianity.

Thoughts?