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[ZNPaaneah]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

And why? He is leaving because he is a quiet man. Every meeting leaves him feeling like a failure for not "feeding others" with the public speaking that to him is a frightening experience filled with an over-surge of adrenaline. This feeling of being a failure is compounded by the total lack of regard and attention he feels from the other saints. I am more talkative and, so, get more attention. This is unfair in his eyes because my "chatting" is not "spiritual" but usually only knowledge (my assessment). In other words, as long as you can talk fairly easily and openly, you get acknowledged and get, perhaps, some respect. The quiet ones? Nothing...
Last, I would appreciate any suggestions you may have about helping him during this time of transition. I just wish I could tell you how huge this is for him. He loves the "ministry" but found that he has no value in the place where it is shared.

I had this experience when I first came into the church. Couldn't speak, felt like a total failure. Then I read the portion in Luke about the Lord considering firing the Steward. I was terrified. The pressure, the over adrenaline, the others leaping out of their seats. I saw myself as one of those stewards about to get fired. So I decided to "clear out the pantry". I felt I had one or two experiences I could share before getting the boot. I always wanted to wait for the perfect time to share the experience, but I thought what is the point, I'm about to be gone. It was like Hannukah, I thought I'd exhaust all my experiences in a week, but the oil never ran out. My advice to him is this, you have already decided to leave, so what do you have to lose. No doubt he has one or two experiences he hasn't shared yet, why not share them before leaving?