Deification

[TLFisher]

Originally Posted by Freedom

Even with shepherding, they really got it all wrong. They talk about shepherding all the time. When put into practice, however, it is anything but. Actions that are assumed to be efforts at "shepherding" someone are actually quite the opposite. An example of this might be pressuring someone to attend a meeting who in reality just needs someone to talk to. At a basic level, I don't even think many in the LC are empowered to really take the necessary actions to really help someone out. Here are some of Lee's views (yes, they're taken out of context) that apply to the attitude of shepherding in the LC:

Yes, they have it all wrong. Shepherding is not an elder speaking a word in the meeting. It is not encouraging a brother to go to a meeting. It is not a BFA exercise.
More likely it would be to visit a brother or sister in their home. It may be inviting ones over for dinner (without the landscape of a weekly home meeting following afterwards). It may be asking a brother to go for a hike or getting together for lunch during the week.
As was my experience, yes it may be going to Starbucks for coffee in the afternoon/evening as I often did with a fellow brother from the brother's house when we were still single.