My Thanksgiving

SerenityLives · 12-02-2020, 08:18 PM

Wow wonderful story. Thanks for sharing. I really commend people who are able to adopt. I used to work in the foster care system. There were three boys, all brothers. The biological mom used to be neglectful but I can tell she still loved them. I chaperoned their visits with their mom, and the mom would buy them anything they wanted. She was really poor and lived in a motel room. Pretty soon, a middle class family took all three boys in, along with their two biological daughters. I was so happy to hear the news that the brothers werent separated. The oldest one had some anxiety and couldnt eat at first due to adjustment to new environment. He took care of his younger brothers, esp the youngest (his kid loved to eat fruit, very rare for a boy his age- I would cut up all sorts of veggies and fruits for him). Luckily there was a therapist on site and he was able to adjust. When i lefty job, there were still two social service kids, one has been to fifteen group homes throughout his fourteen years of life. All they want is love. It was a good job experience.

Usually when I work with grieving children, especially ones who are younger, it’s commonplace to hear them want to go to heaven to visit their mommies, daddies, relatives who recently passed. They do not have a concept of how death works, Writing a goodbye letter with Rosie may be beneficial to help them adjust and grieve. Here is a template:https://www.therapistaid.com/workshe...bye-letter.pdf
If she likes creative things, creating a memory box (full of family photos of her mom, transitional objects and items that remind her of good memories, gifts her mom gave her, and the good bye letter) is also a good way to say goodbye, and best of all, she can pull it out, add things to it from time to time, and look back on it when she is older. Some children write poems/songs too. all you need is a shoebox and decorative materials to costumize it (make it her mom’s favorite color, or put her mom’s favorite animals stickers etc etc. I hope these ideas help. I’m glad you’re there for her. I’m glad there are families that can provide so much love for children who often feel they are unwanted or abandoned.

12-02-2020, 08:18 PM	#2
SerenityLives Member Join Date: Apr 2019 Posts: 524	Re: My Thanksgiving Wow wonderful story. Thanks for sharing. I really commend people who are able to adopt. I used to work in the foster care system. There were three boys, all brothers. The biological mom used to be neglectful but I can tell she still loved them. I chaperoned their visits with their mom, and the mom would buy them anything they wanted. She was really poor and lived in a motel room. Pretty soon, a middle class family took all three boys in, along with their two biological daughters. I was so happy to hear the news that the brothers werent separated. The oldest one had some anxiety and couldnt eat at first due to adjustment to new environment. He took care of his younger brothers, esp the youngest (his kid loved to eat fruit, very rare for a boy his age- I would cut up all sorts of veggies and fruits for him). Luckily there was a therapist on site and he was able to adjust. When i lefty job, there were still two social service kids, one has been to fifteen group homes throughout his fourteen years of life. All they want is love. It was a good job experience. Usually when I work with grieving children, especially ones who are younger, it’s commonplace to hear them want to go to heaven to visit their mommies, daddies, relatives who recently passed. They do not have a concept of how death works, Writing a goodbye letter with Rosie may be beneficial to help them adjust and grieve. Here is a template:https://www.therapistaid.com/workshe...bye-letter.pdf If she likes creative things, creating a memory box (full of family photos of her mom, transitional objects and items that remind her of good memories, gifts her mom gave her, and the good bye letter) is also a good way to say goodbye, and best of all, she can pull it out, add things to it from time to time, and look back on it when she is older. Some children write poems/songs too. all you need is a shoebox and decorative materials to costumize it (make it her mom’s favorite color, or put her mom’s favorite animals stickers etc etc. I hope these ideas help. I’m glad you’re there for her. I’m glad there are families that can provide so much love for children who often feel they are unwanted or abandoned.