SPLIT THREAD - Control and Addiction in the Local Church

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Originally Posted by Nell

Regardless, it would be wise, I think, to assume that our choice to surrender our control over anything to anyone other than God was ALL our own fault. Then, we repent to God and pray for light. If not, He will reveal that to us also.

Agreed.

Nell

Hi Nell, for adults yes I agree. When it comes to pre-teens, teens, and maybe even college age who were raised in the local churches, what would we say?
To surrender control is to be an obedient child, but to take control would cause one's child to be labeled as rebellious.
I lumped college age in there because even at 18, 19, 20 years old they're still finding their way as a young adult. In their immaturity this age group can be quite childlike and easy prey for peer pressure.
I believe there is an expectation in the local churches that parents would yield their parental responsibility over to serving ones, deacons, elders, etc.
These ones are at a loss of words when they come across a parent who won't yield to the serving ones, deacons, elders regarding the parent's child.
The short time I was meeting with the Church in Renton 2009-2010, there was no way and no how was I going to allow my pre-teen children attend SSOT. It was a matter of trust and control. As a parent, I was not going to yield my parental responsibility. Those who have been through SSOT and Youth Conferences, you know what I am talking about.