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Old 01-14-2014, 06:28 PM   #1
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Default Feeling shame and learning to trust again after leaving the LCs

After my wife and I left the LCs the process of leaving and finding a new church was very uncomfortable.

In one church we visited one of the elders there asked us why we left our previous church. I tried to explain our situation but after I brought up the name of Watchman Nee he started defending the LCs even though he knew nothing of Witness Lee. It turned out he was a huge Watchman Nee fan and he started judging us for leaving and me for labeling my previous church system to be cult-like.

In another setting, a woman asked us what made us come to their church and we replied that we were just interested in visiting Christians around the area. To us this was a big deal because we had been living in the Local Church bubble for the longest time. She gave us a blank stare and said something along the lines of "Thats weird! You can just go to such and such an area for that you know? There's tons of Christians there!"

So basically there weren't many people out there who knew what we were going through and we felt very alone. I felt shame concerning my LC background and learned to never bring it up again towards other Christians.

Eventually the Lord led us to the church we're at. We noticed this church was unlike the others because the members seemed to really genuinely love each other. We liked that they practiced praying for each other in small groups during the meetings and there seemed to be so much joy and love being passed around. The teachings were also interesting and I felt fed with each passing sermon.

Eventually we were introduced to another ministry within the church. It turns out that the elder there was an ex-LCer! Finally we had someone who could understand us and minister healing to us. The Lord really prepared everything for us.

Gradually I came to trust in ministry leaders again. In the beginning I reasoned that if Witness Lee could deceive so many smart folks, what was preventing myself from being deceived?

But through the church, I learned to build up my foundation in God's word and develop intimacy with Jesus. Now that I've learned to trust and stand on Jesus and the word as my solid foundation, I've been able to "trust" myself enough to begin "trusting" others again. I know if the leaders ever go astray, I'll always have the word of God and the spirit of God available to tell me. I've learned that it's not leaders that are the problem, it's simply whether or not they have God's presence and if the Holy Spirit is welcome in the environment.

2 Timothy 3:16
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John 16:13
When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.
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Old 01-24-2014, 12:58 PM   #2
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But through the church, I learned to build up my foundation in God's word and develop intimacy with Jesus. Now that I've learned to trust and stand on Jesus and the word as my solid foundation, I've been able to "trust" myself enough to begin "trusting" others again. I know if the leaders ever go astray, I'll always have the word of God and the spirit of God available to tell me. I've learned that it's not leaders that are the problem, it's simply whether or not they have God's presence and if the Holy Spirit is welcome in the environment.
Amen! My experience is strikingly similar where I didn't want any part of a Christian environment whose fellowship was based on a specific ministry. Rather one where the speaking s from the Word and multiple ministries are supported financially. An environment where the fear of God is not overridden by the fear of man. An environment where each Lord's Day reading the Word daily is the continually enocuraged.
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Old 01-28-2014, 05:47 AM   #3
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Amen! My experience is strikingly similar where I didn't want any part of a Christian environment whose fellowship was based on a specific ministry. Rather one where the speaking s from the Word and multiple ministries are supported financially. An environment where the fear of God is not overridden by the fear of man. An environment where each Lord's Day reading the Word daily is the continually enocuraged.
Maybe that was the reason that we latched onto a church that actually had no pastor at the time.
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Old 03-08-2014, 11:38 AM   #4
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Thankfully God is not a misanthrope ,,,,
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Maybe that was the reason that we latched onto a church that actually had no pastor at the time.
What did your church have then if it had no pastor, who was leading that church and how was it being led by?
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What did your church have then if it had no pastor, who was leading that church and how was it being led by?
The previous pastor had left and there was a vacancy being filled by a professor from Dallas Theological Seminary (DTS). About two months after we started there, they had identified a replacement and he began. that was over 26 years ago and he is still there. The church is only 51 years old now, so he has been the pastor for more than half of its existence.

But the church was never without leadership. The elders were a very capable group. And there was at least one DTS professor among them (not the one who was filling the pulpit). That church has grown significantly over those 26 years, although growth is a poor measure of quality. Yet I would call it quality.
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The previous pastor had left and there was a vacancy being filled by a professor from Dallas Theological Seminary (DTS). About two months after we started there, they had identified a replacement and he began. that was over 26 years ago and he is still there. The church is only 51 years old now, so he has been the pastor for more than half of its existence.

But the church was never without leadership. The elders were a very capable group. And there was at least one DTS professor among them (not the one who was filling the pulpit). That church has grown significantly over those 26 years, although growth is a poor measure of quality. Yet I would call it quality.
Why does the LSM today claim they have no leader nor pastor in their local churches except the Lord Jesus Christ? But when asked how does the Lord Jesus lead and shepherd them they have no definite answer but to simply quote bible verses. Were you not with them before?
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