Practically engaged to an LCer

[Nell]

Since you asked, I’ll be blunt.

What should you do? Walk away.
Are you on the right track? No.

You’re in “like”. You haven’t given very good reasons to marry her. Instead, you have stated very serious reasons not to marry her. When she says the church is her “life supply”, believe her. Can you compete with that for the rest of your life?

I knew a couple who married in the church. After a few years, he loved her more than he loved the church, but she loved the church more than she loved him. It was her “life supply”. She couldn’t live without “the saints”, but she could live without him. She “fellowshiped” with an elder who advised her to divorce him. She did. Multiply this story several hundred/thousand times.

What should you do? Walk away.
Are you on the right track? No.

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[aron]

Originally Posted by Nell

What should you do? Walk away.
Are you on the right track? No...

Strong amen here. The LC practices a pervasive mind-control programme. This potential counterpart may be physically attractive and as pleasant and genial a match as one could ask for.

Yet, their mind is not their own. And guess what? The heart and soul and body will follow the captured mind. And anyone joined to such a person will have to deal with the consequences of this fact, not temporarily, but permanently. Too many people have entered into ill-fitting union, naively believing that love will cover all, and/or the partner will somehow magically change.

Don't bet your life on such wishful thinking.

[jmar]

Thanks for the feedback. She's not been a Christian for too long, but her first experience was in the LC in grad school. I'm not exactly sure how their program reaches people because US college students would not respond to it. To me there is nothing at all attractive about it. Anyway, I don't feel the need to compete with the LC since I'm happy with my church group and with my own life.

The issue would come later when we have kids, which has me concerned. She has told me she doesn't care where our kids go to church when they're young, but she would like them to attend the FTTA when they are older. What she doesn't realize is that my church is busting at the seams with kids and young people, and once my kids set foot inside the doors of my church they will probably not want to leave it. Regardless, I have expressed my concerns to her that we need to think about this before getting married. I may try to keep working on her and delay the marriage until she gives up or gives in. I already have a child from my previous marriage, so I am content with a sense of family already. Surprisingly my GF has not disappeared during Christmas and has spent time with me and my family.