Arranged Marriages and Divorce in LC

01-24-2019, 07:24 AM

How common are troubled marriages and divorces in the church compared to the general population or to other christian marriages?

I recall hearing miraculous stories of arranged marriages which later ended in divorce. It was a shock to me when I individually and separately ask first the husband and then the wife of a recently arranged marriage about what I had heard about their recent marriage. They both agreed brothers in the church put them together. Neither agreed it was “great.” Neither wanted to talk about it. Years later they divorced. That was confusing at the time because of the ideas that 1) the most important things is that the person you marry be in the church and 2) if the “brothers,” meaning elders, or even church members did it then it must be right and right with God. The answer is simple. Both 1) and 2) are false.

It may be that arranged marriages are very common and the elder approved courtship procedures generate an even higher percentage of unsatisfactory marriages and divorces than the general degraded culture does. Approved courtship procedures includes marriage after FTT among former trainees.

Could it be that training young people to not relate well to members of the opposite sex because it is somehow bad serves to drive young people into the FTT with hopes of finding their soulmate and raising their own children in the all-important LC? And could it be that those who have good or at least not too bad marriages become even more super-devoted followers of the LSM-BB-elder triad and insist their children do the same? Would most of those unfortunates whose marriages were LC disasters simply go away and not cause too much trouble with the result being the remaining members of the cult are all super-devoted to the mind controlling triad?

01-24-2019, 07:24 AM	#1
Unregistered Guest Posts: n/a	Arranged Marriages and Divorce in LC How common are troubled marriages and divorces in the church compared to the general population or to other christian marriages? I recall hearing miraculous stories of arranged marriages which later ended in divorce. It was a shock to me when I individually and separately ask first the husband and then the wife of a recently arranged marriage about what I had heard about their recent marriage. They both agreed brothers in the church put them together. Neither agreed it was “great.” Neither wanted to talk about it. Years later they divorced. That was confusing at the time because of the ideas that 1) the most important things is that the person you marry be in the church and 2) if the “brothers,” meaning elders, or even church members did it then it must be right and right with God. The answer is simple. Both 1) and 2) are false. It may be that arranged marriages are very common and the elder approved courtship procedures generate an even higher percentage of unsatisfactory marriages and divorces than the general degraded culture does. Approved courtship procedures includes marriage after FTT among former trainees. Could it be that training young people to not relate well to members of the opposite sex because it is somehow bad serves to drive young people into the FTT with hopes of finding their soulmate and raising their own children in the all-important LC? And could it be that those who have good or at least not too bad marriages become even more super-devoted followers of the LSM-BB-elder triad and insist their children do the same? Would most of those unfortunates whose marriages were LC disasters simply go away and not cause too much trouble with the result being the remaining members of the cult are all super-devoted to the mind controlling triad?