Smear Shame Shun

[TLFisher]

I attended Cajon High School in San Bernardino, CA 1984-1986. One of my high school friends Vijay used to tease my younger sister Stephanie by calling her SSS. Not particular meaning. Just to tease. Where am I going with this? I am about to tell you.
These past few weeks I have been immersed in YouTube videos on narcissism and narcissistic traits. Yes, you will find quote a lot of this in the local churches.
Some narcissists use these tactics to silence and maintain control. Here is the local church version of SSS

• Smear Campaign
• Shame
• Shun

I'll add one more specifically for the local churches if shunning cannot be effective:
Quarantine/Excommunicate

I have known ones or known of ones this has happened to:

• Steve Isitt
• Jo Casteel
• John Ingalls
• Max Rapoport

Each have been smeared, shamed, and shunned. To my knowledge, only John was quarantined.
Having been witness to a couple receiving grace at East Renton Community Church within the last 10 years, it took that very moment to realize my time in the local churches I was cheated. Thinking smearing, shaming, and shunning was the norm.
I can tell you all, that is only the norm in the local churches. It is not the norm in non-LSM fellowship in the churches I have met with. Grace is what you give. It's okay to ask questions. It's okay to have differing opinions.
It's healthy to have boundaries.
In my post-LC/LSM experiences, I'm at ease. I'm no longer concerned with labels. I used to be defensive when asked if I am an opposer. No longer. I'm at ease. Yes, I am an opposer. I oppose the smearing. I oppose the shaming. I oppose the shunning. I oppose when saints are treated unjustly.
I oppose the brothers given the headship when they are mere men. They are not our Lord and King.