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What should I be looking for in a church?
I just wanna tell you all of you here. I have made my way out, but the fear I'm the only one of the family members have left this group. I thank God for relieving the truth to me for more over 4 years of reservations. Now, I'm constantly getting out for good and be joined with orthodox and evangelical Christians. I couldn't agree more the blatant contradictions of LSM's teachings. I felt bad for those people like John So, Titus Chu, John Ingalls, reading their stories that have treated wrongly. I made a thorough investigation to decide when is the right time to leave the Local Church movement. I used to defend the local church theology against critics for years. What turned out has changed the course of my life. First start, I have had encountered this website a long time ago, but my local church elders have told us not to read poisions posted on the Internet. But it isn't a poison it's an inoculation!
Everything they told me were plain lies. Teachings were contradictory when you compare scripture with scripture. And the hidden history really got hooked my attention. It was too horrible and hardly to describe. I do affirm some of things that LSM hold to. But as I went beyond the empty tombs, the fox has revealed its tails. I made my decision to leave because it's difficult to grow my relationship with Jesus when all I just heard from them is bashing Christians in Christianity and claiming that God is on our side. There so many things I have had enough with them. What drove me away were their theological views and their attitude towards other Christians. I'm strongly convicted to look in a more Bible-based, Christ-honoring direction and can do that in a loving manner, then staying would seem to be the better course of action. I don't know exactly because no church is perfect. I wanna sure to pray about a group I'm considering, to be sure I'm following the Lord's leading as I search. Maybe I could begin my search online, to see all of my options. And especially I wanna sure to read a church's doctrinal statement or statement of belief to find out about their stance on important issues. If from this initial research a church seems to be good and solid, then I visit that church. I would like to ask if these teachers like John Piper and James White are biblical sound teachers and recommendable to my Christian walk. Please help me because I don't know exactly where to go to start my Christian walk. PS. English is not my first language. I'm having difficulty to outline what should I say. |
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Welcome to the forum, Kevin, I went through a very similar situation as you as I discovered the truths of the so-called rebellions in the late eighties. I am currently in my late twenties, and I am also in a similar situation as you as I am in a process of re-building my entire life from scratch. To your question, I think John Piper is very solid but I don’t know much about James White. John Piper belongs to the sector of Christianity known as reformed Christianity which has its lineage that includes John Calvin, Jonathan Edwards and others. One of my friends is part of the Presbyterian Church of America and I went to his church for about a year and then had to move away for work. In general I have very good impression of the reformed Christians, because they are very focused on study of the Bible and put much attention on living biblically. The downside to them is that many of them believe in cessationism which is the beliefs that spiritual gifts such as prophecy and speaking in tongue have ceased since the apostolic age, which I think is unbiblical. However, one of the good things about them is that they have clear rules and guidelines for everything in the church (sometimes to a fault because it can make their Sunday worship look robotic). That sounds very restrictive, but actually what that means is the church leadership acts with much accountability and therefore would prevent the gross abuse of power as we saw in the LC. Also, in their guidelines they even say you don’t have to agree with everything they say to remain a member in the church. They allow some freedom of discussion of scripture so even when I was there and the pastor knew I disagree with him on something, he still treated me just like anybody else. It is a very healthy system of checks and balance of church governance and I think you should check them out. It is a breath of fresh air compared to the soft dictatorship in LC. However, the reform church does not allow free-for-all prophesying in corporate worship and on Sunday it is the pastor preaching, but they have home gathering as well which affords members freedom to share their spiritual experience, so to me the good far outweighs the bad.
Aside from John Piper, other people in the reformed churches I would recommend are Paul Washer and R.C. Sproul. If you are looking to non-reformed but still solid preachers, I would recommend Leonard Ravenhill and Martyn Lloyd Jones. Both Ravenhill and Jones are deceased, but if you listen to their tape, both of them spoke with much anointing and conviction which I have rarely heard from any preacher. Also check out E.M Bounds books on prayer. |
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No church is perfect. One of the first community churches I visited had a very faithful and compassionate pastor, and I received much counsel from him. However later on he moved away and the interim pastor was not nearly as good. That is why I recommend you to at least check out the reformed church, because in many churches the atmosphere is heavily influenced by the personal charisma and faithfulness of the pastor, and as soon as the pastor moves away, the church would often deteriorate and lose membership. The reformed Presbyterians (especially the Presbyterian Church of America and other conservative Presbyterian branches such as OPC) put much effort into building healthy relations among their local branches to support each other while preventing abuse of power by higher ups.
There are also many Pentecostal based churches that may be good, but my impression is that many of them focus too much on spiritual gift, which often just means they resort to fake emotions and subjective feelings. The reformed churches, given all of its flaws, still remain solid option in my opinion. To clarify, I am not talking about the mainline Presbyterian Church (PCUSA). Don’t go to that. They open allow practicing homosexuals to be in the church and to serve in the church. Look at the conservative wings of the Presbyterian churches. |
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(WL did repent at the end, on the matter of "receiving others", but it didn't make much of a change that I could see) And the main problem with their theological views, in my opinion, isn't that they were laced with ignorance. On this side of the mortal veil we're all ignorant. It's that ignorance was foisted on us like it was objective reality. Listen to any message given by WL and you would hear, "We all must see that. . ." and "You must say. . ." repeatedly. No choice was given. Bad theology, or at least highly subjective and speculative theology, was placed in front of us and we were forced to eat. Look at any HWMR - "we must" and "we need to" and "we have to" is attached to ideosyncratic fluff. Not all of it, of course; some is sound. But there's enough subjective nonsense to fill several rooms. I agree with jcyrb. Go somewhere safe. Don't worry about boring. Go somewhere conservative, and relatively safe. Where abuse is less likely. Ultimately you are responsible for your journey. But you want to conduct your journey in a place where people are not pressuring you to conform to unbiblical standards, like in the LC.
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06-12-2017, 02:23 AM | #5 |
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I have much interested with the conservative Reformed churches. I do aware the mainline Presbyterian Church that allows homosexuality. I'm really upset with the LC elders and co-workers here for allowing a millionaire brother who had annullement to force a young sister to marry him in her twenties. It's because of money matters and wanting to have a fancy meeting hall! They kicked out a co-worker just for accepting him in our region. There are lot of things have gone beyond the lines. And I fear that I know what the implications are, if I announce to leave publicly, I would be labeled as an opposer. I would lose my relationship with my relatives and my grandma who supported me for college. Please pray for me.
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My mom got stumbled for calling her "junk" by an elder for not doing her job well as a bookroom in charge. My step dad also got stumbled about one elder that he was falsely accused about few things because of that elder's jealously and envy. Those elders never reconciled to my parents. They just don't mind at all. They all care for those saints who shows loyalty to them.
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I'm starting reading the ESV Bible. I'm wanting to order two books called Desiring God and The Pleasures of God by John Piper. But it's kinda expensive to afford it. Can somebody would be so kind order me those books. Anyways, I always follow his website 'desiringgod.org'
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So the only "oneness" in the LC was maintained by abject servility to leaders. I bet those elders had the same problems that your parents had with them. It is an entirely human system of 'guanxi networks', of reciprocal obligations. Violate this network, and you will not be forgiven.
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Guanxi networks. Once you see them for what they are, they lose their power over you.
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Some of it seemed just plain immoral to me, like I shouldn't have anything to do with certain things and am totally unqualified but I'm 'in' because I'm in the church. But my Chinese ex wife felt it was perfectly acceptable and just the way things work. |
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You say the purpose of the meeting is to ask you to repent for your doctrinal views. I am not aware of the public statements that you have made that they are asking you to recant. Do not bring up their alleged sins unless you have evidence you wish to bring to their attention and you know of at least one more witness that will corroborate your testimony. For example the key testimony in this account of the millionaire brother forcing the sister against her will is this sister's testimony. If she is not going to corroborate this then this story alone would be justification for some form of discipline. I am also confused -- you say you have left the movement yet they are going to quarantine you if you don't recant. What is it that you have said publicly that you need to recant?
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What should I do tomorrow? I already left the LRC movement. But these elders asked me to face them to recant my doctrinal views. They have no idea what the reformation holds where I am leaning to. All they asked is to submit to their authority. Anyone advice? Should I meet them up to rebuttal my standing? They're gonna quarantine me if I don't repent.
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It does not sound like you are prepared to meet them tomorrow, so you might want to postpone the meeting so that you have more time to prayerfully consider what the Lord would have you do and say. If that is not possible, Jesus specifically told us, "But when you are arrested and stand trial, don't worry in advance about what to say. Just say what God tells you at that time, for it is not you who will be speaking, but the Holy Spirit." (Mark 13.11, Matthew 10.19, Luke 12.11)
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A week goes by and the elders show up at my door. They had my wife leave, sat around me, and told me what I had to do to remain the LC. But it was a demand that was so far out there that it was impossible for me to do. I left. Thank God. And I would love to shake the hand of that elder that made it impossible for me to stay in the church.
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Each case of quarantine by LSM was a copy-cat exercise of II Thess. 3.14, "And if anyone does not obey our word by this letter, mark this one that you may not associate with him, in order that he may be put to shame." This all sounds "legitimate" until you consider that copy editors at an Anaheim book publisher are not Apostle Paul, and never possessed apostolic authority to pen the epistles. Obeying the scripture and disobeying LSM's petty decrees is about as serious as not eating desert. Regardless of how far-fetched LSM's claims were, they still never practiced the subsequent verse written by Paul in II Thess 3.15, "And do not consider him an enemy, but admonish him as a brother."
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The second case was an elder accused of a variety of things, including molestation. There were no corroborating witnesses to molestation. He was told he needed training in another locality from another elder. Then both the elder/coworker from Anaheim who led the proceedings against that elder and the elder who was supposed to do the training left TLR the next year. The third case was the Anaheim elder/coworker who took the lead in the second case. He and another elder stood up to Witness Lee about his son Phillip's philandering and meddling in locality matters. He was quarantined by Witness Lee himself. Truly baffling! That's when I started reading the Bible on my own to learn how leaders should handle these things, and found much lacking in LSM "quarantines" I saw. Kevin, I'm praying for you. I know the Lord will be with you, and will give you strength to stay in Him and be faithful to speak truth in love.
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They may not be notorious for casting out demons or performing miracles. But they are notorious for excommunicating (casting out) people out of their religious organization. Take refuge in Jesus. Psalm 7:1 O Lord my God, in You I have taken refuge; Save me from all those who pursue me, and deliver me, Psalm 18:1-3 “I love You, O Lord, my strength.” The Lord is my Rock and my Fortress and my Deliverer, My God, my Rock, in Whom I take refuge; (You are) My shield and the Horn of my salvation, my Stronghold. I call upon the Lord, Who is worthy to be praised, And I am saved from my enemies. May the Lord God grant you Wisdom, Strength, Revelation as you deal with this matter. The Blood of Jesus will protect you and cover you. He will encamp His ministering angels about you so no weapon formed against you will succeed. Remember. GOD LOVES YOU! He has your back! YOU BELONG TO HIM not to the LSM. He WILL PROTECT YOU! Blessings.
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Kevin's family is supporting him and paying his college tuition. Before we start telling him what to do, should not we first encourage him to seek the Lord for guidance?
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Don't stay just to keep access to your parents money. Follow the Lord - speak truth to your parents.
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All I told him was seek the Kingdom. Staying with that group so that his parents will pay for college?
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When I came to the LC, I was told to leave my family, publicly renounce the Catholic Church, take my money out of their Credit Union, smash their idols, and tear up the pictures. Supposedly I was seeking the Kingdom of God first, actually I was only doing what LC zealots told me to do and not what the Lord was doing. Needless to say, these things neither helped me, nor my family, nor the Gospel.
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I will simply tell you what I would do, and why. I would NOT meet with them. At all. And honestly, I would not engage with them or give them access to you...if I were you. the hard part is this is still very new for you. As a compassionate, normal human being, you're going to want to see the best in them, you will want to be heard, you are going to want to believe you're going in on equal footing...but unfortunately, you are not. This is about control. They have no intention of listening to you. They want to wear you down, or gain something from what you say that will give them an advantage. Worse than that? Well...I don't know these particular people you're dealing with, but I know this behavior, and it's kind of psychic vampirism (for lack of a more Christiany way to say it...sorry). But I'm serious. People who are emotional manipulators MUST FEED ON EMOTION. They must engage with you and interact with you to maintain hope of control. As long as they can rile you up and keep you on the defensive, even if you are resisting them, they are still, ultimately, controlling you. They cannot do that if they don't have access to you. If you go in there (maybe you have already?) and try to get through it, just to say you tried, more power to you...but just understand that it will come at a cost. The best thing would be for you to get as far away, mentally and emotionally, as you can from their influence. There will be no convincing them. I know I am making them sound villainous. (They very well may be.) But people doing this stuff to each other is complicated. It is hard to see this kind of thing in people you love, and who you thought loved you...and maybe even who on some level do! You are going through part of the most painful process of separation, it sounds like...the part where there is still attachment. Call it spiritual, if you will. It is going to hurt. Like withdrawal from addiction. You are lucky, though, because you found people who can actually give you support!!! You are here. That can shorten and lessen the pain of this time. I apologize if I am assuming a lot...all I have to go on is what you've described, and my own experience. It sounds to me like a no-win situation, and in such a case, I would not entertain or give energy to their mechanisms. It is most likely just going to be wheel-spinning and result in further grief for you. You can still love them from a detached distance, and take care of yourself. That's my two cents, fwiw. |
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They are not there to learn from you & grow. They manipulate others to please their all-too- human masters. Pick up a HWMR sometime and look at the outline. Full of need. "We must" and "We should" and "We need to".
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Lord, where would I go?
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Jesus had no place to lay his head. Why should you? Are you a sojourner or not?
His home was in the Father's will. Where is yours? If you solve the Jesus Puzzle the Church Puzzle will sort itself out right quick. But don't look for answers to the first puzzle within the second one. Remember your LC experience - that should prove my point.
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When I left LCM four months ago, I was wandering where to start again my Christian life. So, I tried entering different churches seeking and hungering for the truth. It was then through John Piper 's ministry, Desiring God Ministries that brought me to the reformed faith. I know a lot of you won't agree everything on reformed theology. However, I asked the in prayer Lord that he would give me a discipler who could help me to grow my relationship with Him. The Lord answered my prayer and the person is a Reformed Christian. But there is no reformed church here in my place. So now, he is mentoring me as his disciple. He even told me to go back to LCM for the sake of unity in the midst of diversity and diversity without conformity because he doesn't proselytize me to any denomination. So I did, just one type of meeting, but it went wrong when this elder faced me up and asked me to come over at the elders' office tomorrow. We somehow argued each other. I ran to my mentor and explained him everything.
If ever they will come over my house in order to notify me that I am quarantined that I wasn't able to meet them up. I will directly say to them. If an elder's teaching is inconsistent with God's Word or contradicts it, abusing the flock, lording over others and promoting what materials should be exclusively used, a person is under NO obligation to obey and better he must leave the congregation. False teachers are NOT to be obeyed, but rather rejected! Its is better to obey God rather than mere fallible men. A Christian should not go against the authority of scriptures. Here I stand. Quote:
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I feel for you bro. Kevin. You have to face this LCM-elders bully while there are threats over your finance-college fees and family separation.
Your mentor thought you could go back and meet in LCM, "for the sake of unity in the midst of diversity and diversity without conformity". Sorry, he does not know that there is no room for 'diversity' and 'diversity without conformity' in LCM, and LCM has NO room for 'for the sake of unity'. (BUT they say they are all for ONENESS). I say the 'elders' you face, execute bully in the name of 'their ONENESS'. None and nothing 'for the sake of unity'. They are there to enforce conformity and quarantine non-conformity. As your quote: God help me. Amen. Pray to the Lord, obey Him, obey His word. The Lord Jesus Christ will show you what 'elder' 'shepherd' is. |
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The so-called RECOVERY supposedly began with this quote by Martin Luther, and now this same quote is being used by the Lord to deliver His children from the oppressive system the so-called Recovery has become.
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I have great respect for reformed theology. It is foundational to much of evangelical theology.
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I remember Ron Kangas saying that the biggest opponent to the theology of the Recovery was Reformed Theology.
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And I had had enough of Reformed Theology growing up in the Southern Baptist church.
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