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Old 07-26-2014, 01:05 PM   #111
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Well I certainly wouldn't want, in such a situation, to be an enabler.

My ex became a drug addict, and impossible to live with. Her heart preferred drugs, to me and our child.

From what you've said so far, you seem to be caught in a gripping, maybe impossible, matter of the heart. Your heart is to your wife. Her heart is to the local church. Your heart is not. There are no easy answers. You've got to be torn.

So maybe it's a good idea to encourage her deeper into the local church. Maybe if she dives in, and over time, doesn't see the promised results, she'll wake up ... and put her heart where it belongs, where likely the lord wants it, to her marriage and husband.

In short, the local church has usurped her heart. She's caught in a cult, or cuz cult is such a loaded term, at least a semi-cult. At any rate, in any case, it appears, her heart and mind aren't her own.

Lord, be into this situation, and with our brother ... and his wife.

Mat_11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
Thank you so much, Harold. That was really kind of you.

I feel sad about your wife. If I am not mistaken, your ex was Chinese by blood. My wife is also Chinese. I believe I idealize and adore Chinese girls, maybe because I love mine so much. I am a sentimental man, so I feel really sad when I hear bad news about Chinese women. It's like a spot or corruption that sticks to my ideal. I don't want this ever happen.

I have decided to leave the LRC and let my wife dive into it. Well, that's what I am saying now when I am in another corner of the world, thousands of miles away from my wife. And I have no idea what I will say when I see her. I am praying for her so that the Lord open her eyes before I come back. It would be a miracle if she and I could leave the LRC together. The chances are slim, but prayer is the only thing I can do now.
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