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Originally Posted by Nell
Speaking as a woman, I could anticipate that she may understand you to mean exactly what you said. Aron, Ohio and your explanation won't mean much to a woman in love.
Not having "much to lose" means losing her will not be a big deal to you "in case you don't work out." If the man I was practically engaged to said these words to me, or wrote them on a public forum, I would be devastated. These comments in any context are hurtful. If I'm right, she won't be able to get these words out of her head. EVER, and no explanation is possible.
But that's just me...
Nell
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Good marriage counselors do ask these tough, thought-provoking questions, and the right time to ask is *before* marriage. And btw, this is, by definition, the true meaning and value of the courtship.
Otherwise, why not get married after the first kiss? Isn't the cross of Christ adequate for every marital problem? Kiss her today, marry her tomorrow, and live happily ever after. Sounds like a Hallmark Movie.