Peter I think raising children goes through several stages. To lay a foundation in their youth we teach them right from wrong. Essentially we teach them what to think. As they grow and their capacity increases we teach them how to think. By the time they leave our direct influence we hope we have taught them how to make choices that will have a positive effect on their lives and those of others.
What it might look like in application is: stealing is wrong and you cannot see that movie because it glamorizes stealing [grammar school age] to stealing is wrong and you know that because you were taught this so I trust when you see the movie you will not be seduced by the glamorization of theft [jr high age] to your buddies were caught shoplifting at the mall but you made the right choice not to shoplift [hs age].
My only advise on parenting is to be the best father and mother you can be. Be authentic human beings. Take your kids on vacation, get them into sports, go to Disney World with them, etc. And watch for signs of natural abilities they might have so you can nudge them in a direction that might help develop those abilities e.g. playing a musical instrument, etc. And give them the best formal education you can afford. And be aware and openly discuss the real issues they face or will face: porn, alcohol, drugs, sex, etc i.e. keep the lines of communication open with no subject off limits
May God give you the wisdom and grace to handle the toughest job in the world but also the most rewarding!
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