[TLFisher]

I appreciated reading your post. Those who have left the local churches seem to go one quite well or seem to have some baggage with them. As for me, my baggage was how brothers like John Ingalls, Bill Mallon, etc were treated. Instead of blessing these brothers in leaving the recovery, the word pariah seems to fit how they were treated and still are. It is how these brothers were slandered verbally and in print that I could no longer go on this way. One co-worker/elder once communicated to me the quarantined brothers should have some response. Would he or any other co-worker take the time to read Speaking the Truth in Love?

It wasn't until a few years ago did I find a community church that attracted what my regenerated spirit needed. Not only was my spirit nourished, but I learned what it was to give grace practically. Understand, when I was a single brother I often heard grace, but never seen it applied.
I am glad you were able to speak with brother John. I did not meet him until 2010. I found John to have much grace to dispense and Christ to minister. As for you, I hope you and your husband are able to find an assembly of Christians whose fellowship will match which you seek.