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Bring the hidden things of darkness into the light. Rebuke the elders among you so that the others may learn.

There is much to be learned about what certain elders in the Recovery believe about marriage and other issues from the court records and included emails in this very sad case. Because fellow OKC-area elders and at least one coworker aligned themselves with the out of line husband/elder in Edmond even to the extent of alleging the wife was an adulterous lesbian with no physical evidence the LSM Anaheim coworkers had to throw the OKC-area elders and their coworker under the bus. This was partly because during the court trial evidence was presented by counselors, social service investigators which was agreed to by the children's Guardian ad litem that the children were subjected to religious abuse in the home and sexual molestation by the elder/father. The court has not ruled on the matter, but has restricted the father's visitation with the children.

Information from the emails included in the court documents alleged that the elder/husband attempted to exercise control over the body, soul, and spirit of his wife. She was restricted to sharing only "spiritual enjoyment" with her immediate family and other LC wives. She could not share intimate things with other sisters. This edict was enforced by the husband after he found out his wife asked another LC wife if daily forced intimacy regardless of health or feelings was normal, and that the wife could only say no after one daily occurrence. Both and LC sister and a counselor said that was not normal, and the counselor told the wife to only have intimacy when she wanted and was ready.

Elder/husband allegedly flipped out and threatened suicide and that he would need to obtain his intimacy needs from the children. Because the wife asked an intimate question of another LC wife the husband accused her of adultery and the coworker and some of the other elders apparently agreed, and the word lesbian was thrown about.

I have know several LC elders and can say that I'm pretty sure the above is not typical for most LC elders. But, the fact that the elder was supported by other elders and at least one coworker suggest that all is not right with the vetting of LC elders and review of allegations of improprieties.

Would you want to be associated with a religious group like this?