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Originally Posted by Sons to Glory!

That's quite the intense, visceral reaction, Trapped! Sorry you had that kind of experience. So maybe I should instead say, "Something inside me didn't feel right about making that kind of outline"? (but truly, I must say that the sensation I had is best described as no peace . . .)

Nell:
Seriously? Mockery? Can you be more offensive?

In the interests of protecting things from going sour here, I have two things to say.

First off, I want to give a bit of faith in StG. I did not read mockery into his post. It might be, or he might have just answered straightforwardly, acknowledging what Trapped explained, but also maintaining his right to choose words that he feels fit his experience best. Putting both on the table.

Personally, I don't think StG would have deliberately been nasty. I don't think that's who he is.

More significantly, I feel that Trapped has detailed something very important here in describing this to us. Church kids received a really bad deal, into their formative years too. This is not to be viewed lightly unless this forum wants to sweep them aside and treat them as they have been disregarded already. If they are 'triggered, sensitive to ' christian-ese' and being preached at'..... let's honour that. It's serious, as Trapped has said. His story is heartbreaking, and he's one that has come out strong, a survivor.

It doesn't hurt any of us to 'prefer one another'... That is the rubber hitting the road as Christians, we are called to that anyway. We could be right on the verge of being able to speak help and healing to large numbers of ECK's. People respond to feeling respected, honoured valued, cared for, listened to, given the benefit of the doubt. We have the power to express that to these abuse survivors, and they qualify for such care, their stories are heartwrenching.

QUOTE from Trapped:

'People on this forum, you are touching serious and sometimes life-threatening issues of deep pain, abuse, and trauma in the people who come here. I can only pray that somehow the God who sees into the areas of pain in your own life can help you understand the pain of others.'

To me these are extremely important words.

Through these recent tense conversations on this forum, a key has been revealed to us, one we didn't know about before. We didn't know all this Christian talk was putting them off, and worse, retraumatising them. We weren't trying to oppress them. But in learning that it did, we can approach them with that in mind. Let's be the red sea and part (adjust ourselves I how we interact with them) to let them embark on the journey through to a better place! (odd visual but it just came to me!). We can still chat to each other as we enjoy, just keep that to relevant thread topics.