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Originally Posted by Sons to Glory!
I was a little confused by this. Actually to clarify, her first thread is this one, which was started on 11/16, and I only made a comment on it starting today. The rather tumultuous thread in question that you speak of is the "Thoughts on the Libel Suit," started by her on 11/18 in the "Oh Lord, Where do we Go from Here" section. It's interesting to look at that thread to see how communication can go sideways . . . (I already apologized for my part)
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You are right; I read both threads one after the other and didn't mentally delineate where you made your spiritual comments. It was on the libel thread. The issue, and I'm speaking as a church kid, is that you kept throwing spiritual phrases at her directly, even on that thread, even as she made it clear that she herself didn't like it. I'm saying this as a fellow believer myself, but for church kids who have been hurt by the local church to the point where they don't feel like God cares at all (think about that for just a second.....can you imagine feeling that way?) to repeatedly have "Praise the Lord" and "Christ is our hope of glory!" and "He loves us!" and "now we know how to pray for you" and all that kind of stuff....even after she made it clear she would rather not have that sickly spiritual christian-ese language directed AT her......is insensitive, thick-headed, deaf, and drives people away. You invalidated the person behind the words. She said she doesn't think God cares, isn't a believer, doesn't feel like she'd been given a free gift. And you responded by essentially telling her she actually was a believer, and the best thing is to take problems to Jesus (the very one, btw, she feels doesn't care at all). Deaf, to say the least. I am fine with your suggestion to take this particular topic (what is considered "insensitive" for church kids) to another thread, if anyone thinks there is value to it.
By the way, I'm not trying to keep beating you over the head about it; as you said, you apologized. I'm trying to explain so the issues church kids come to the forum with are better understood.
And I'll also tone down what I said about the forum being useless to three generations of church kids. I think it's more accurate to say it's useless to three generations of any church kids who come here who are truly struggling with their faith and don't see any reason to believe that God cares, and for whom overly spiritual language shuts them down. The church kids in that category is not an insignificant percentage. The ex-LC member facebook page is replete with members who are still "triggered" by that kind of speaking. What happened to "being all things to all people"?