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Trapped · 11-27-2020, 01:46 PM

aron, thanks for being a voice of reason and compassion. I've been in knots for days but have such a non-confrontational personality in real life that I've repeatedly deleted before posting numerous drafts where I've let it rip but then been concerned about "offending".

UntoHim, would you consider retracting your "final shot" post? In other words, don't close the gates on ExChurchKid being here. I've gone back and read the two threads of contention on the main forum. I have no dog in the fight and have no partial feelings towards one "side" or the other, except having the ability to understand personally myself where ExChurchKid is coming from.

The beginnings of the issues just seemed to be Sons to Glory repeatedly throwing in overly spiritual phrases even after ExChurchKid made it clear that they hurt her. Plennnnnnty of church kids are "triggered" by those kind of spiritual phrases, since they are often used in the local church to dismiss people's hurt.......you know.....that whole "peace, peace, when there is no peace" verse. If people here can't understand that basic of all basic points of pain for church kids, then this forum is useless to about three generations. On her introductory thread in particular, she has the right to request (which she did so politely) that people not throw spiritual phrases at her, and Sons to Glory just kept doing it. He was in the wrong.

Things went downhill when Ohio and jigsaw jumped in to StG's defense, which shouldn't have happened. I fully agree that StG should not need to censor himself everywhere on the forum, but there was the initial mistake on one thread and it snowballed. And because of the piling on, it then seemed like ExChurchKid was the enemy, when she's not. And since she didn't get the necessary understanding up front, it meant that other spiritual comments on other threads felt like more of the same insensitivity, rather than just a normal part of the forum. From my view she has reacted because she's mostly gotten punches rather than care so far. I've had countless pleasant exchanges with Ohio and StG and jigsaw for a while, but I would react the same way if they did to me what they did to ECK.

To all, this is my perspective, and I think it's a fair one. What I'm seeing is abuse to someone seeking relief from abuse. Some of you have no idea what that does to a person.

11-27-2020, 01:46 PM	#77
Trapped Member Join Date: Mar 2018 Posts: 1,523	Re: We should do something aron, thanks for being a voice of reason and compassion. I've been in knots for days but have such a non-confrontational personality in real life that I've repeatedly deleted before posting numerous drafts where I've let it rip but then been concerned about "offending". UntoHim, would you consider retracting your "final shot" post? In other words, don't close the gates on ExChurchKid being here. I've gone back and read the two threads of contention on the main forum. I have no dog in the fight and have no partial feelings towards one "side" or the other, except having the ability to understand personally myself where ExChurchKid is coming from. The beginnings of the issues just seemed to be Sons to Glory repeatedly throwing in overly spiritual phrases even after ExChurchKid made it clear that they hurt her. Plennnnnnty of church kids are "triggered" by those kind of spiritual phrases, since they are often used in the local church to dismiss people's hurt.......you know.....that whole "peace, peace, when there is no peace" verse. If people here can't understand that basic of all basic points of pain for church kids, then this forum is useless to about three generations. On her introductory thread in particular, she has the right to request (which she did so politely) that people not throw spiritual phrases at her, and Sons to Glory just kept doing it. He was in the wrong. Things went downhill when Ohio and jigsaw jumped in to StG's defense, which shouldn't have happened. I fully agree that StG should not need to censor himself everywhere on the forum, but there was the initial mistake on one thread and it snowballed. And because of the piling on, it then seemed like ExChurchKid was the enemy, when she's not. And since she didn't get the necessary understanding up front, it meant that other spiritual comments on other threads felt like more of the same insensitivity, rather than just a normal part of the forum. From my view she has reacted because she's mostly gotten punches rather than care so far. I've had countless pleasant exchanges with Ohio and StG and jigsaw for a while, but I would react the same way if they did to me what they did to ECK. To all, this is my perspective, and I think it's a fair one. What I'm seeing is abuse to someone seeking relief from abuse. Some of you have no idea what that does to a person.