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ISeeCrazyPeople · 10-08-2020, 05:14 PM

Hello Unregistered Guest!
Thank you for sharing. We are similar ages (I’m 34), and I as well didn’t start thinking about this too much until more recently. I think I knew for years that it had a negative impact on my life, but I really started thinking further when I decided to research the church a bit, and saw a TON of information online about it’s past and being called a cult and what not.
I’m glad you shared about your relationship issues, because that was also a major issue for me (though in a different way). I know that my parents sometimes said “dating leads to divorce” and the church always said we need to be equally yolked.. or something like that. Implying we needed to marry within the church. I can definitely see them acting like the police, like you said.
The thing about having to fellowship, wasn’t really a thing for me so much. Maybe because I was from a really small church. But I don’t think anybody cared about me enough to make me fellowship. But, that is verging on quite controlling it sounds like. I was also controlled, but more by my parents (who kept my siblings and I on quite a tight leash), and probably indirectly through the church (who influenced my parents parenting style).
Sorry, I don’t have much time right now to respond to everything you said, although it is very interesting. It is very sad that they used “fellowship” as a way to learn things and gain leverage. I actually did have something similar to that happen to me once I was a young adult in the church..long story though. I can just say, it was really awkward and uncomfortable to have a sit down with the brothers at a table and have them tell you things and what to do. As far as I know, once you are 18, you are an adult and shouldn’t have to be bossed around like that, especially from a church.
I am glad though you made it through this experience and ended up married to your husband. Please let me know if you want to discuss this further.

10-08-2020, 05:14 PM	#2
ISeeCrazyPeople Member Join Date: Oct 2020 Posts: 20	Re: Did you also have a difficult childhood in the LC? Hello Unregistered Guest! Thank you for sharing. We are similar ages (I’m 34), and I as well didn’t start thinking about this too much until more recently. I think I knew for years that it had a negative impact on my life, but I really started thinking further when I decided to research the church a bit, and saw a TON of information online about it’s past and being called a cult and what not. I’m glad you shared about your relationship issues, because that was also a major issue for me (though in a different way). I know that my parents sometimes said “dating leads to divorce” and the church always said we need to be equally yolked.. or something like that. Implying we needed to marry within the church. I can definitely see them acting like the police, like you said. The thing about having to fellowship, wasn’t really a thing for me so much. Maybe because I was from a really small church. But I don’t think anybody cared about me enough to make me fellowship. But, that is verging on quite controlling it sounds like. I was also controlled, but more by my parents (who kept my siblings and I on quite a tight leash), and probably indirectly through the church (who influenced my parents parenting style). Sorry, I don’t have much time right now to respond to everything you said, although it is very interesting. It is very sad that they used “fellowship” as a way to learn things and gain leverage. I actually did have something similar to that happen to me once I was a young adult in the church..long story though. I can just say, it was really awkward and uncomfortable to have a sit down with the brothers at a table and have them tell you things and what to do. As far as I know, once you are 18, you are an adult and shouldn’t have to be bossed around like that, especially from a church. I am glad though you made it through this experience and ended up married to your husband. Please let me know if you want to discuss this further.