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Originally Posted by jigsaw44
Got another question for y'all. I guess I was not done asking questions.
15. Gossip- Gossip is in every church to some extent but in the LC. It's almost feels impossible to have a 1 on 1 conversation with someone. Like there are times when a convo is general and appropriate to share with others. While other times, it's obvious or directly stated to be a personal 1 on 1 conversation, or a bro/locker room vibe convo. It's funny how an LC individual would approach you or in the middle of a conversation- reveal personal info about yourself that you know you have not told them. Knowing darn well only 1 person knew about that piece of info, and unfortunately I have to have a level of distrust for that person I initially told that piece of info. It's like their objective is to spill the beans at all cost. Like do they not have the concept of trust? Maybe this is just my personal experience and I am positive this level of distrust is not exclusive to LC but it's the most tattle tale environment I have seen in the church environment.
Are you fellas familiar with my experience? Or is this just a me thing cause they are trying to spread info on me and figure me out? If it is a common trait in the LC, why is it like this?
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I can relate as, well, relates to elders. I think it depends on the person or the elder. I know some elders who are a tight lid on any personal and sensitive information or situations they know about saints. I know other elders who are known to have loose lips, and yet nothing is really done about it. The saints who get burned just adjust and move forward knowing they can't trust the blabbing elder.
It seems to me that it just comes down to most elders in the LC having zero qualifications or training or learning to do what they do....or what they are supposed to do. For all intents and purposes, elders in any church frequently function as counselors, and real counselors go through actual training and understand the seriousness of spreading around information they shouldn't. But in the LC, elders become elders because they are "positive for the ministry" and submissive to those above them, and can regurgitate the Lee jargon with the most convincing tone, not because they are real Biblical elders. But inside some of them secretly love that they get the inside scoop on all the little secrets of the saints' personal lives.
In other words, a chunk of them are wolves. Not there for the genuine care of the flock.
Honestly, the whole setup is one big piece of dirt claiming to be the biggest shiniest golden jewel.