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ISeeCrazyPeople · 10-06-2020, 09:00 AM

Jigsaw,
I find that so absurd that the elders would want you to end your relationship. Major red flag. And imagine if you grew up in this church to begin with.. you probably would never have had a girlfriend to begin with. Though I have read that women are treated differently than the men in this church, so I'm not sure what it would have been like to be raised a male in this church (I also only have sisters).

I keep reading other people who write about how the sisters in the church were suppressed and not able to speak up and other things like that. I do remember sisters had to wear "head coverings" which were usually doilies folded in half. I personally was often oblivious to what was going on, and was so bored and hardly payed attention in the long winded meetings (I had to sit through them starting in junior high), so I might not have noticed the suppression of women as much as I could have.

Sorry, that was a tangent. But if you don't agree with most of the practices, and are only held back by your friends, is it possible you leave ASAP but still remain friends with them? If they are truly "normal" guys like you say, they will probably understand. You probably don't even have to go into detail as to why you are leaving. You could just .. slip away. I have one friend that still attends the church, but not in my area, and we never talk about it. I have a couple other "acquaintances" who I'm on friendly terms with and talk to occasionally who are involved in the church.

I know your circumstances might be different though. I just hope for your mental health, you can get away ASAP. Best of luck!

10-06-2020, 09:00 AM	#11
ISeeCrazyPeople Member Join Date: Oct 2020 Posts: 20	Re: The Lost and Found of the Local Church Kids Jigsaw, I find that so absurd that the elders would want you to end your relationship. Major red flag. And imagine if you grew up in this church to begin with.. you probably would never have had a girlfriend to begin with. Though I have read that women are treated differently than the men in this church, so I'm not sure what it would have been like to be raised a male in this church (I also only have sisters). I keep reading other people who write about how the sisters in the church were suppressed and not able to speak up and other things like that. I do remember sisters had to wear "head coverings" which were usually doilies folded in half. I personally was often oblivious to what was going on, and was so bored and hardly payed attention in the long winded meetings (I had to sit through them starting in junior high), so I might not have noticed the suppression of women as much as I could have. Sorry, that was a tangent. But if you don't agree with most of the practices, and are only held back by your friends, is it possible you leave ASAP but still remain friends with them? If they are truly "normal" guys like you say, they will probably understand. You probably don't even have to go into detail as to why you are leaving. You could just .. slip away. I have one friend that still attends the church, but not in my area, and we never talk about it. I have a couple other "acquaintances" who I'm on friendly terms with and talk to occasionally who are involved in the church. I know your circumstances might be different though. I just hope for your mental health, you can get away ASAP. Best of luck!