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ISeeCrazyPeople · 10-04-2020, 05:30 PM

Jigsaw, thank you for your reply. I became curious though as to why you are asking all of these questions. So I went to read your initial post here. So, you are a current LC member? Are you looking to leave, and trying to make your decision based off of information you find out? I am certainly not going to judge you for wanting to do that.

Please feel free to tell me though why you wanted to join it at all in the first place. We obviously have very different backgrounds.. you, making a personal decision to join as an adult, and me, being forced into it as a child.

I think I DO miss having a sort of group to belong to. I still feel like I had a hard time leaving something that I grew up in, and am still trying to find a group where I truly belong. For some people, like myself, that might not even end up being a church group.

I also saw your comment about relationships. I found this part very amusing:

"But some these are men in their mid thirties sitting their hopelessly and sad, not realizing they might need to expand their world outside the local churches to get what they want.
Having a woman/spouse is one of the most essential things for a man to have and to make it so hard for grown men to even have a basic interaction with woman (talking, standard dating),to me makes no sense. Especially when some men are by default of certain qualities, going to have a harder time dating/finding a woman "

I would expect maybe the church got better now that it's 2020, but apparently not, haha!!

It was actually not very funny for me as a female. The story about my transition period I was going to mention has to do with a very bad relationship I ended up in. My life was completely turned upside down because of this and it took me years to recover and become a strong and independent woman. I still don't feel super comfortable mentioning it here. I think what I'm waiting for is to hear from another person (female would be better just because of relatability) who group up in the LC who can truly understand the hardships I went through and the serious consequences it had on my life.

So, are you a bit concerned about how being in the LC might affect you and your girlfriend? Or maybe your future children (if you want kids) if you stay in the LC?

10-04-2020, 05:30 PM	#9
ISeeCrazyPeople Member Join Date: Oct 2020 Posts: 20	Re: The Lost and Found of the Local Church Kids Jigsaw, thank you for your reply. I became curious though as to why you are asking all of these questions. So I went to read your initial post here. So, you are a current LC member? Are you looking to leave, and trying to make your decision based off of information you find out? I am certainly not going to judge you for wanting to do that. Please feel free to tell me though why you wanted to join it at all in the first place. We obviously have very different backgrounds.. you, making a personal decision to join as an adult, and me, being forced into it as a child. I think I DO miss having a sort of group to belong to. I still feel like I had a hard time leaving something that I grew up in, and am still trying to find a group where I truly belong. For some people, like myself, that might not even end up being a church group. I also saw your comment about relationships. I found this part very amusing: "But some these are men in their mid thirties sitting their hopelessly and sad, not realizing they might need to expand their world outside the local churches to get what they want. Having a woman/spouse is one of the most essential things for a man to have and to make it so hard for grown men to even have a basic interaction with woman (talking, standard dating),to me makes no sense. Especially when some men are by default of certain qualities, going to have a harder time dating/finding a woman " I would expect maybe the church got better now that it's 2020, but apparently not, haha!! It was actually not very funny for me as a female. The story about my transition period I was going to mention has to do with a very bad relationship I ended up in. My life was completely turned upside down because of this and it took me years to recover and become a strong and independent woman. I still don't feel super comfortable mentioning it here. I think what I'm waiting for is to hear from another person (female would be better just because of relatability) who group up in the LC who can truly understand the hardships I went through and the serious consequences it had on my life. So, are you a bit concerned about how being in the LC might affect you and your girlfriend? Or maybe your future children (if you want kids) if you stay in the LC?