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Originally Posted by Trapped
Shunning is obviously a characteristic of unhealthy churches, including the local church. It shows their relationship with you is entirely based on whether you subscribe to what they believe, or what they read, or who they follow, and whether or not you worship within the same four walls as they do.
But how have you dealt with it? How have you dealt with people who turn your backs on you.....except you know them so well you know where their forks go in their kitchen? And you know not to lean on the sink a certain way or else that hidden leak will re-appear? And you know not to step on that one tile in the corner because it has a crack just beginning to form that wasn't there years ago? And they've trusted you with all kinds of things in their life for years.
But all of a sudden you are a non-existent to them.
And then the ripple effect....the people who have no reason to shun you, but when you tell them others are shunning you, they take that as the cue to join in!
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Many thoughts on shunning. It shows the system is more important than human relationships. Severed in an instant. I suppose the LC term for shunning is inoculation don't you think? Inoculation from the poison who as we know is the person to be shunned.
Growing up in the local churches one learns to express thoughts and opinions is not accepted. One learns to either develop a mask for the churchlife or keep thoughts and opinions between ones ears.
Have I been shunned? Quite possibly. Although I've been told "they're busy"
I've never been told I was being shunned or purposely avoided, but you never know.