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Originally Posted by Curious
The message of this story? If you disallow the people around you to have opinions, to hold you to account, to disagree with you, to have their own thoughts and feelings about things, then you isolate yourself from their hearts. (Think of the demands of being 'perfected' in the LC system, losing your identity, opinions etc.) In that isolation there is great loneliness and pain, in the long run. We were not designed to endure that, as human beings. This is true in a marriage where there is heavy male domination, just as it is true in an abusive organisation with a heavy focus on controlling and bullying its members...it’s the same exact thing on a much bigger scale.
I think this is a true message about all positions of authority without accountability. WL maybe didn’t have his own ‘worm tongue’ (manipulative right-hand man), but being elevated and out of kilter with God’s rules for living is as harmful to the person elevated as it is to those under them.
That’s my long, drawn-out point. The main thrust of this forum, if respected by the LC, will be to bring healing and restoration to the leadership of the LC as much as to its followers. The solution is equally important for everyone involved.
That’s my theory and comment anyway. if it is relevant, then I'm hoping some in LC leadership read this.
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When I look at the LC and what is happening within it currently, I don't see anything that makes me particularly optimistic about it. Of course, it's never too late for reform to happen, however, at this point I think that even if there were ever anything significant to happen in that regard, very few would want back in.
Sometimes when I reflect on my own LC experience, one of the things that I keep coming back to is the realization that I spent far too long in the LC waiting for things to get better. Another thing is the realization that it took me far too long to realize how much was wrong. And for me at least, now that I have that realization, I don't want to waste a second more of my time with things that might never change.
In other words by the time I realized the determinate effects associated with the lack of accountability, it was too late. The damage was done, and even if things had changed for the better, I probably still would have left.