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Originally Posted by Nell
Here’s what Ron and his defenders should have said:
I’m sorry. I was wrong. We were wrong. My words toward my wife were harsh and incendiary and I totally understand why they were received as they were. I should have realized that whatever point I was trying to make would be lost.
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We are doing a particular thing here on this thread, and elsewhere on this forum. My posts about shepherdingwords are written to break down the statements of the LC and show what they really say. Others are doing that too. Nell’s post here are actually words for the LC leaders what a healthy and humble statement would look like. It reveals the bar, the standard that should be expected from them. (I hope they will develop the wisdom to take advantage of this grace through Nell’s offering a template they could easily follow).
My main hope and prayer is that this will help lurkers. Those current LCer’s secretly reading this forum who are gradually shifting their paradigm. I hope it helps them to break out of the haze that comes over their minds to confuse and almost bewitch them whenever the familiar wording and concepts reach out at them, through statements issued by the LSM wordsmiths. The style of speaking, and use of key words are so familiar, and a person is so conditioned to not be able to process the statements critically. ie, there is an ingrained conditioned response to key words and phrases (like the word ‘proper’) that can disempower the questioning LCer’s mind. The extent to which the person’s mind has been dominated by this style of speaking determines how hard this is to battle. It’s a form of ‘fear-based, mind-control programming’. We are breaking it down for them. I hope it is working.
Nell’s post again: to repent imputes value to the person who has been wronged. A rightful value, an attempt to restore them, through retracting the intention behind the injustice they suffered. Repenting is a practical expression of love and respect towards the ones mistreated. I encourage any LC lurker reading this to repeat-read (in the vein of pray-read!) Nell’s suggestion of what a true shepherd would say to his flock. To get a hold in their heart of what honour they should expect to receive from the LSM. Any person with shame-based processing will take time and repetition to assimilate this as shame can feel familiar and safe. Hating yourself can feel holy, I know, I used to be there, but it is actually staying stuck in toxic mud. I hope and pray for people to dare to allow themselves to grow and form a rightful value for themselves through the Holy Spirit and these posts.
also, thanks to those adding alumination to the story of Aron and Miriam. very interesting and things to ponder. that she was cleansed by Gods chastening feels right. His correcting comes from His grace and is always to restore. even if it is a type of things to come, it still needed to make sense to those there at the time, I believe.