[Sons to Glory!]

I like kumbaya's post. At some point there has to be serious resolve on your part and you'll have to set boundaries.

As far as other advise, the method for leaving is Christ. That is, He is the best One - in you - for this situation. Be sure there is lots of prayer to the Lord, with the two of you as a couple. Pray that He lives and acts through you, guides you and sets the stage for you. And pray that His love will come through you, as you interact. You need to be "wise as serpents, yet gentle as doves." After all, these are brothers and sisters you will be communicating with (it's the system you are against).

I left the LC back in 1988, however, I didn't have the same situation. Things had degraded in our locality some and others were leaving. We then moved to another part of the city, a few miles further from the meeting hall and other saints. Therefore, when I got a job offer to move out of state, there weren't any that I remember, that were questioning us about it all. (I will add that at that time in Columbus, OH, things weren't as intensely LSM as in other places. I also sorta think we might also not have been considered by some to be the "best material" if you know what I mean . . .)

After that, it took about ten years of the Lord "drying me out" to begin to realize that there were other Christians who had a real relationship and portion of Christ besides the LC. Twenty years later, and by His love, mercy and grace, I am well down the road of "recovering from The Recovery"!

The Lord be with you and please keep us posted.