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Originally Posted by Melo
However I'e noticed it's really weird the way a lot of people get together. I've heard so many stories of people going indirect routes of telling people they are interested. So if Brother A likes Sister B, he'll tell Brother C to talk to her. Not really sure if this is the way it works in other churches/settings but it always has felt kinda childish to me to watch it play out.
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What I think is different than other groups is the way you very seldom hear about people openly "dating" or "courting" one another. What you have instead is two people will pretty much secretly be seeing one another for months and months, in the sense that it is not publicly discussed, and only a few people will know about it, then next thing you know they are engaged. In a way it seems like an arranged marriage from the outside, because you rarely see messy dating situations or failed relationships out in the open, but that's more a reflection of the cultural expectations that you aren't to date openly. You fellowship with the brothers, and if there's mutual interest your relationship is "covered" under the fellowship, and if it doesn't work out nobody talks about it. I've personally never heard of anyone literally being told whom to marry though.