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Originally Posted by jmar
She also has issues with my church, so I suggested we start attending a new church that neither one of us have been to. She suggests the LC is her "life supply", and I keep thinking to myself that her faith is so weak if it depends solely on the LC...
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jmar,
I agree with Nell's sentiment in #2... but perhaps for different reasons.
I'll also be frank as she was... your considerations and that of your potential fiance (just based on what you write here in this forum) seems to lack a fundamental element in the relationship. Love. Mutual love. Not just like... but love. Call me old fashioned.
Yet, even if you assess that you love her and she loves you, the way you are conducting yourself seems to be less than forthcoming.... I won't say manipulative because I can't read your heart.... but you're trying to change her by steering a little this way and some veering that way.... and yet she has already told you where her heart is. That is not how you want to start a life long relationship. And your proposal to attend a third church that neither of you currently attend did not honor her convictions and showed no conviction on your part for where you are currently attending! Why would she leave what she believes about so strongly.... for something that you don't really care about or another anon place that you know nothing about yourself?
I think if you really love this girl, you should be prepared to accept her priorities BEFORE you marry her else you will end up in a world of hurt as Nell rightly forecasts. If you have concerns and you love and care about her you will work through those upfront and then decide whether a life union if right for both of you. As it stands, it appears you are on the wrong track.
I wish you well.
Drake