[byHismercy]

I am not suggesting jmar do this, but I am pretty sure if he were to march up to his fiances' meeting hall and have a sit down with the elders of her locality, and if he were completely frank about any issues or errors in doctrine, or any problems he sees in the ministry, he might find the decision out of his hands. At the least, he would find out if she were devoted to him or her LC. I am positive they would do their very best to 'poison' her against jmar if they sensed danger of his 'negative' influence.

When I was a young person in the LC, various sisters were sent to me to influence me to break up with a boyfriend, and when that happened organically, later I got a talking to about the man I was about to marry. (Meaning they felt very strongly that I shouldnt yoke myself to him, and was counciled strongly against it.) I wonder, now, how I was so blind to such weird intrusions....how I trusted in this ministry for so long.

And yes, jmar, arranged marriages abound in the LC. I can recall three young sisters my age who were coming through the FTTA who went from single to giddily engaged to be married overnight.

Come to think of it, I always thought it was so strange that so many devout older sisters I knew were divorced. I am committed to my unbelieving spouse forever because I will obey Gods word on the matter. Now I wonder how many divorces I knew of in the LC had everything to do with the cultish practice of LC elders meddling in 'unequally yolked' partnerships.

I wouldn't want to be in your place, jmar. We wives are to revere our husbands and he is the head of the marriage, as Christ is head of the church! That is a solemn command! You would be in the right to fully expect her to follow you in all ways, and the church, fellowship, worship, etc. If you came to the point of wanting her to take her submissive position, but she refused.....what would then happen? You ought to know that human love and close human relationships are looked upon as fleshly, therefore of Satan!! in the Lee ministry. That is how myself and my dear children came to be coldly discarded by saints we thought loved us. It was very painful. I so fear this becoming a stumbling block for my little ones some day....

byHismercy