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Originally Posted by Trapped
I really don't want to say much of anything since marriage is such a high stake and there are so many nuances that it's hard to be a "keyboard advisor" without knowing the situation personally, but the phrase I bolded above jumped out at me. I'm no trained professional in this area, but.....that doesn't seem like a solid foundation for any relationship, much less one that will likely be guaranteed to encounter disagreement over spiritual things.
If you are pretty content in case you don't work out....why marry that person? If facing a lifetime with them and you already feel you "don't have much to lose" if things go south....what substantive foundation are you committing to then?
Marriage will be difficult enough even without the LC issues you've mentioned. If you are already content not working out before you've gotten married, do you have enough to draw on when the inevitable difficulties come where you have to fight to in order to work out?
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What I meant was that I consider myself "complete" in Christ. I'm not looking or depending on someone else to complete me. In addition, I already have a family (my child) and a house, which are things that newly married people are looking forward to creating together. I already have those things. If we end up not working out, I'd definitely lose out on a great open-minded person (minus LC issues) to spend my life with. Guess I was thinking what @awareness was saying...there are plenty of fish in the sea. Sometimes I'm not confident there are many good fish, but there are probably more than I realize. As far as marriage goes, I'm looking forward to working together as a team to build a better life together. We make a great team so far.