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Originally Posted by jmar
Should I write down any previously mentioned concerns or only new ones? I'm getting more comfortable mentioning these things in person because I realize I don't have much to lose, and I'm pretty content with myself in case we don't work out. .
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If she has responded, then you don't have to repeat it. If she doesn't respond then repeat it.
Be polite, be caring and engaging and always be respectful! (One of my worst points, I know - but I do apologize for it). But be insistent; you have concerns and want to address them.
If she gets flustered tell her, Take your time and think it over. If she just refuses to engage on any level, then you have a good indication of where she is with the group, and with you.
The main point is, this is a group uncomfortable with questions; people with questions are labeled 'negative'. But your GF may be the exception. There is only one way to find out.