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Originally Posted by Bradley
If a man has never had a girlfriend and he's getting older and lonelier, he'll be coming from a position of scarcity with regards to women. He will be needy, and no woman likes a needy man. Its just not attractive.
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I see your logic. However, my logic went like this: Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose/meaning/role in being here? Who is "me"?
I knew that once I'd solved that riddle there would be no problem presenting myself to the opposite gender and that until I answered these questions to my own satisfaction, I'd present a needy, selfish, grasping, dissatisfied and confused person to the opposite gender. No amount of friendly match-making (or feminine charms) can overcome that.
Bradley, are arranged marriages a Chinese thing? We seem to be discussing whether it's good or bad, whilst ignoring what cultural values are at work.
In retrospect I find that the LC is the Normal Christian Church Life of you are holding Chinese cultural persuasions. Not so much for those from other backgrounds. Maybe arranged marriages are normal for this culture.