I don't necessarily disagree with your last explanation even though I disagree with your first because I think the use of the male pronoun only is telling. I think that female leaders can make the church "too feminine".
Some statistics seem to support this:
http://archive.decaturdaily.com/deca...1/church.shtml
The author of "Why Men Hate Going to Church" thinks the church is so feminine it's driving men away..