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Cal · 03-01-2018, 01:58 PM

Be confident in what you feel to do. There is no need to be rude, but be firm.

The way these types of groups operate is they work on your insecurity. Check whether it seems they are truly concerned about YOU, or just whether you are to them just another number that needs to be in their collection.

If someone there really cared about you, he/she would be willing to spend time with you, ask what's going on in your life and just be a friend.

If someone gets with you and right away starts questioning why you aren't with them anymore, you can be sure that one of two things are true: (1) they have no idea how to shepherd, or (2) they don't really care about you as a person.

03-01-2018, 01:58 PM	#2
Cal Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: USA Posts: 4,333	Re: How to resist the pressure? Be confident in what you feel to do. There is no need to be rude, but be firm. The way these types of groups operate is they work on your insecurity. Check whether it seems they are truly concerned about YOU, or just whether you are to them just another number that needs to be in their collection. If someone there really cared about you, he/she would be willing to spend time with you, ask what's going on in your life and just be a friend. If someone gets with you and right away starts questioning why you aren't with them anymore, you can be sure that one of two things are true: (1) they have no idea how to shepherd, or (2) they don't really care about you as a person.