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Originally Posted by Unregistered

I'm in a process of leaving the local church.
Just wanna list a few things about LCM

Asian flavour: they emphasis the role of the males. So I notice that women often take up the roles like cooking or children ministry. The serving ones wivies are usually left alone. I really feel for them, some have young children but have to mind the children while the husband / dad go to the meetings or go for a conference out of town.

The Elders: in Lee's writings, there should be no ranking system in the church. But no one can make a decision without the elders from the church matters to personal lives ( e.g. They discourage you to get a spouse from outside the church). People have to submit to the elders.

Questions:
What I'm struggling is that some writings and people in Local church did help me a lot to know th Lord and to experience Him. In fact, I received my salvation here. They render lot so help to my practical life too.

After joining this group I don't have much friends outside now. Don't know how to start life again if I do leave.

Welcome Unregistered. Being in a closed group like the LC is socially isolating. One way of making friends outside the group is through your workplace if you work outside your home. Another is to visit other congregations. You don't have to reject the good people and things that are in the LC. Choosing to leave doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing choice even though you have been taught that.