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Originally Posted by OGOP
....When I mentioned to my girlfriend just a few days ago that I was going to research the history of the denomination, I got quite the backlash. That I shouldn't research anything because I would be "poisoned" and "confused" by what I would see.
I need advice.
I obviously can't just go to my girlfriend, who has known only the church life nothing else, and tell her she's in church that is borderline cult. I don't want to raise my kids in an environment like that. I don't know what to do.
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OGOP,
On the other hand, the backlash you experienced is only the beginning. It won't get any better than it is now. Can you imagine starting your married life together without telling her the truth about how you feel about the LC? If you can't have that conversation now, when can you? Two or three years later there may be children involved! She will find out how you feel and blame you for deceiving her.
The feelings you share now may vanish like the dew in the morning sun. Married life is hard enough without the forces of the LC interfering, and this interference will never stop. They have a teaching that "if you take care of the church, God will take care of your family." This is a lie, of course, but one that is already ingrained. She has already chosen the church and you will always be second. You will spend the rest of your life fighting these teachings.
Read aron's post again. He's right. My point is to let you know what you're up against and if your relationship can't survive the truth, you have a decision to make.
Get professional counseling.
Blessings to you OGOP.
Nell