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Originally Posted by aron
While I agree somewhat with Ohio's statement, my impression of Asian culture is that family ties in practice can over-ride even church commitment. I have as my example none other than Witness Lee himself, who repeatedly chose his sons over the best interests of the church. At one point when the elders protested that he made his son Philip an executive in the LSM, he replied, "If I want to hire an unbeliever as my personal chef, that is my business." Witness Lee put his family first, and no one could stop him.
So our new friend here has this advantage. As long as you (BHG) are not adversarial toward your parents, they will respect your desire for some spiritual independence. Just tell them that you are considering things. Allow some space to come in.
Your boyfriend was operating from a position of strength in fellowship with you, because he was not under the authority of the LC. You need to do the same. Establish spiritual independence, while maintaining friendly relations with your family. Remember that if your family sees in you a spirit of meekness, per 2 Tim 2:25, they will remain calm and not be threatened by your attempts to seek growth outside LC environs.
Do not become antagonistic! That is my only advice. (this is from one who has failed many times. But I can still repent, and learn!)
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Hi Aron, you do bring up a good point :P My dad WOULD put down his LC obligations if I insist. He is a shepherding one, so it's difficult for him to fully break away for too long but he would if it's very important.
Yes, I fail at remaining calm a lot of the times and I do repent for that
Thank you for your kind reminder
I am actually most concerned with my relationship situation. As an obedient asian girl who really wants to make her parents happy, it's difficult for me to have parents who disapprove who I date and potentially marry. I guess God has a plan for us all through this experience. We all need some adversity to help us shed our old selves and turn to the Lord. I must admit, I have never been so interested in digging into the scriptures before this contentious matter arose.
So I suppose, Praise the Lord! And thank you all for your support. If anyone has a similar experience and would like to share, please do!
All your testimonies have been a real encouragement because it's difficult to confide in people who don't understand what I've been through and not many people can!!