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Originally Posted by Ohio
Dear Thankful Jane, it's too bad you couldn't just say a friendly "goodbye" without throwing a few insults my way. I have not treated you (or any others) this way.
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Ohio,
Perhaps you are not aware of it, but you have a habit which is frustrating to me and perhaps others...TJ for example.
Above TJ has tried to communicate to you that you are reshaping her words into something she didn't say. When she tries to communicate this to you, you further misstate and/or reshape, believing her attempt at communication to be an insult. There was no insult. Frank communication is not an insult, it's just ... frank.
I know you believe you have not mistreated others. That may not be your intention, but you have mistreated others. How? I know how much time Jane spends on her posts...days on a post that is important to her. I've done the same thing. When you spend that much time to put something in writing, what you said or didn't say is in black and white. If someone doesn't understand the post, that's different: ask questions and discuss until the author's intent is clearly understood. That's called "communicating".
I've seen you take something in black and white and reshape it into something else. Often something embellished, maybe inflammatory but totally missing the point. The end result? Total miscommunication and a rabbit trail to clean up the mess.
A secondary result? Others may attribute
your remarks to Jane (or me). I'm scratching my head saying "WHAT? I didn't say that! Where did that come from?" How frustrating is that?
Is telling you this an insult? No.
Is this frank communication? Yes.
Maybe you don't like it, but that doesn't make it an insult.
Nell