Dear Jane,
I am so sorry to hear of your past experience in the LC. There seems to be a lot of hurt people here. And when people are hurt, they have many wounds which when touched, can cause them pain and reactions towards those who touch them. I have not read all this post as I am quite busy. I am thankful also that I have not had such a bad time in the LC as many here in this forum. [We in NZ are a bit removed and I think a bit preserved because of this.] But I do think that members on the forum should speak softly to each other and bind each others wounds. Think of this place as being like a hospital clinic with Jesus as the Great Physician.