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Originally Posted by Igzy
I have a question for you, SC, and anyone else who cares to answer.
If you were the older sibling of a child who was damaged by an abusive father, would you spend most of your time in discussion with your sibling telling him or her all the good points of your father?
In other words, what would be more important to you, salvaging your father's reputation, or helping your sibling find healing?
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Igzy, concerning abuse ... I was ... and I am also an older sibling. In fact, I am currently reading a book about making peace with one's father. To answer your question, of course,
the goal is healing, but that doesn't come by hating him more. Understanding and differentiating the good and the bad ... with the grace of God ... seems to be the best course. This is why I prefer to address details rather than to generalize ... and this also seems to exactly be the course of this thread.