OBW, we all need to be humble enough to receive from anyone. But that doesn't mean we have to receive from anyone. There are other reasons to not receive, some of which you mention pertaining to Lee. God has provided lots of teachers. Many of them superb. There is no good reason to continue with one who is replete with errors and too proud to be corrected.
It's interesting, because I by default have pretty much taken the course you have prescribed. I formerly hung on to many of Lee's teachings thinking they were too good to let go. But since they were not being reinforced in my life, I have slowly been weaned off of them and they have been replaced by more healthy versions of what he seemed to be trying to say but messed up in his drive to redefine Christian thought and resist all correction. E.g.
- I see local Christian unity as a goal God wants and is working toward (see the Explore God move in Austin), but do not believe an official group of elders is necessary or helpful to such a thing.
- I believe in transformation of the soul by the indwelling Spirit, but I do not believe God is being "added to my being."
- I believe in the mystery of the Trinity, but I do not believe it is for "dispensing," rather I think that it is about relationship.
And so on.
I had not read Lee for a long time when, the other evening, I took out one of his books and tried to read it in an unbiased fashion. What I saw was good mixed with bad. I saw the stuff God probably wanted Lee to bring to light (e.g. the indwelling Spirit) mixed with the stuff which should have been tossed in the dumpster (e.g. metabolic change of the soul due to God being added).
In others words, you are right. His ministry is too much of a tangle, and his style is so imperative and resolute, that it is extremely difficult to take him with a grain of salt. He doesn't leave the door open to take him with a grain of salt. Again, a humility problem.
Like I said, there are lots of teachers, and none of them is irreplaceable. Paul said all things are yours. He meant it. Don't let the tail wag the dog. Don't let a bad teacher lead you around by the nose. God is able to raise up teachers from stones.