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Originally Posted by Thankful Jane
Sounds like you are doing a good job of parenting. Do the folks in your current church dictate what the dating habits of your children should be?
Thankful Jane
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Absolutely not. And within a congregation of beyond 4,000 there have been all kinds of things happen. However, for a congregation of 4,000, the track record is really pretty good. Far from perfect. And I obviously do not know the entire 4,000. Within that number, sometimes it's hard to find some of the 300 that were there when we started 21 years ago. They are mostly still there, but hard to find.
As for our job of parenting, we did go through a scare a few years ago. During our oldest's second year in college, he met a girl that he went mildly insane over. We met her that fall. Before the end of the semester, they were thinking about getting married. I sent some long emails to reason with him. He agreed to take it a little slower. By the end of February, it was over. A year later, she was married (already pregnant). She was excessively needy due to problems in her home (and we had seen that). It would have ended their college careers and probably not ended well for them. Now, 7 years later, we are trying to
not push him to get into more social groups so that he has a "fishing hole." He is just too busy with grad school (seminary), work, church, and the little socialization he does with his friends on campus (quite a small group). In his case, waiting a little longer is probably best.