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Originally Posted by Process
I wanted to also bring up marriages that had a dominating husband (elder) and a wife that worked so hard to deny herself completely of self that she ended up just checking out on life altogether. Almost a 'Stepford' type relationship. I wonder if these were common in the LC!?!? I observed this personally. I don't think you can count that as a successful marriage, despite the fact that there wasn't/isn't a divorce. If you think there was a cushion being from an elder family, I'd like to say my opinion differs.
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Hi Process,
I'm not much of an expert, but in the early days my observation was that some elders marriages seemed quite healthy. I lived with one elder and his family and was fairly well acquainted with another. Both of these couples seemed to be very much in love, and the wives seemed to be fairly comfortable in their roles and did not seem suppressed, but were honored by their husbands and enjoyed the playful repartee that healthy couples often engage in. But both marriages began pre-LC.
I saw several other elder marriages from a distance and never saw one which seemed suppressive. Some seemed less effervescent that others, maybe some even less than happy, but like I said, I'm no expert.
However, I do know of one elder marriage that I witnessed firsthand in which the couple seemed quite happy, but which eventually ended in a devastating divorce. Thankful Jane can tell you more about that one and does in her book.