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Originally Posted by Process
I wanted to also bring up marriages that had a dominating husband (elder) and a wife that worked so hard to deny herself completely of self that she ended up just checking out on life altogether. Almost a 'Stepford' type relationship. I wonder if these were common in the LC!?!? I observed this personally. I don't think you can count that as a successful marriage, despite the fact that there wasn't/isn't a divorce. If you think there was a cushion being from an elder family, I'd like to say my opinion differs.
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Process,
You make a good point. What a complex system we were all caught into! It's a culture of extremes.
A few years ago I went to a meeting for whatever reason...I ended up there. As I looked around the room, I noticed the faces of the sisters. It was remarkable. Many had an almost a blank look on their faces. Even if they were smiling, their eyes looked hollow. Based on what you've shared, I'll call this a "Stepford" look. I think it is probably very common. I have known one sister in particular for many years, who is the wife of a dominating elder husband. She has had that Stepford look, an almost permanent pained look on her face, as long as I can remember. So you're right, not all elder families were "privileged". Many women try to cope the best they can, and that often means denial.
Nell