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Originally Posted by blessD
In OKC, free choice in mates, dating, and engagement is accepted. It seems, at least in this area, the lessons were learned. Of the 15+ marriages around 1980, the latest reports indicate ALL but one ended in divorce. Since I don't keep contact with many people of that time period, this report is just word of mouth.
The only marriage that survived is a couple that met each other and fell in love before they began attending meetings. Strangely enough, the elders told them not to get married saying it was "natural" and of the flesh. I am so glad they did not listen and have had one of the best marriages I have ever seen.
Someone mentioned on a post that they did not think the divorce rate was that different than any other church. At 14 out of 15 failed marriages just from this 1 year period, I beg to differ.
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I'm probably at least one of the people that said something about similar divorce rates. 14 of 15 is quite a failure rate.
Now, surely this was not the norm, even for OKC. But some really low divorce rate was not either. The marriages that I was most familiar with near the time of mine are still going. I can't say how strong. I know several of them that are happily in the LC somewhere in the DFW area. And in the same breath, I can point to quite a few over many years that didn't last long, up to one lasting long enough to have 2 or 3 kid before she just left and moved in with some guy. But these are mostly marriages of people whose entrance into the LC was late high school or beyond, so it was at least somewhat their own decision. I have little information concerning the true second generation.
I would hate to think that 14 of 15 was commonplace, but even if not, the fact that it happened that way once is tragic and screams for review.