"The difference between an abuse and a non-abusive system is that while hurtful behaviors might happen in both, it is not permissible to talk about problems in an abusive system. Hence, there is no healing hurts and abuses in the abusive system. Hence there is no healing and restoration after the wound has occurred, and
the victim is made to feel at fault for questioning or pointing out the problem."
p. 32, The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse