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Originally Posted by Hope
By the way, I was wondering where you have been. I am at work and must go but I did read your post on a break and felt to respond. Glad you are back.  |
Thanks, Don. The sad truth about where I have been is that I have been involved with another situation (from LC damage) trying to help. I've also been doing some writing related to that. I also have a difficult situation in my extended family in process. The forum is taking a back burner for a while. I am trying to keep up with reading, but that is hard because I always want to respond.
Here's one more thought I have about all our mixed (love it/hate it)experience in the LC. It's kind of like
Mommie Dearest. The adopted daughter of Ms. Crawford loved her mommie and wanted nothing more than to please her. Her mommie unfortunately also loved herself and wanted nothing more than her daughter to please her. This is the true story of a young child's growth to maturity as a human being and her journey of facing the truth of the parental abuse she had experienced under a sick self-centered mother. The daughter never knew when her mother's trigger would fire and horrible, irrational abuse would begin. No matter how she was treated, she always had to smile and call her mother, "Mommie Dearest." It is a heartbreaking story that she finally told as an adult, shocking all who heard it, I'm sure. I saw the movie. I assume there was a book.
I have heard and believe that the only way for abusive situations to end is for all secrecy to end. Secrecy is the lifeblood of dysfunctional situations. As long as everyone buys into the secrecy mode, abuse continues. No one wants ugly secrets to be told about their family for obvious reasons. In many ways we are all like those from an abusive family, only I think it is worse because it was God's family. It shouldn't have been this way, but it was.
I can only imagine what it must be like for you to tell these backroom things. It can't be easy to talk about a picture of which you were a part. It is humbling and exposing for all of us to see how susceptible we were/are to being deceived. I was totally there, a man-pleaser deluxe until God let me get smacked pretty hard. I didn't want to know the truth about my church family and leaders I loved. I didn't want to know that the depths of Satan could be found among God's people, but I had to know the truth for God to be able to set me free. Mostly I had to know the truth about myself and my deceitfully wicked heart.
I'm kind of up to here in this kind of thing right now, so sorry if my post sounds a little morose. I still have great hope in what God can do to heal us. I need only look as far as my own life to know His amazing ability to save.
Every family member gets help when the truth is finally known. People can start to get well then. God's forgiveness is great and powerful. I don't think we really ever begin to grasp or appreciate that until we see our tremendous need for it and come to the place that we ask for it. Having all things laid naked and open before Him has a way of bringing us to that place.
When all is said and done, every mouth will be stopped. None will be able to boast. "All have sinned and come short of the glory of God" will not be just a verse in the Bible. We will know it to the core. When we give
all praise and glory to the Lamb in that day, we will be doing just that.
Thankful Jane