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Originally Posted by ZNPaaneah
Try and look at this from the Bully's point of view. To call in some brother or sister that you rarely fellowship with to warn them of some other brother that they may or may not be aware of will cause more damage than good. Therefore they will try to do this with as few as possible, and only the ones they know that you know.
Second, it is also counterproductive to have a church wide meeting, because then saints will be asking questions, like what did he do, etc. This also could cause you to damage and lose the saints on the back row.
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I believe you have misunderstood me. There is no need for an widespread audience. Not even a collection of elders and deacons is necessary. Just two brothers getting together. Why not get together over dinner? If Steve erred in his writing, have the brother point out the inaccuracy. If you need witnesses, each ask a brother to join.
On your first point, being bully is not about who they tell but being assertive in speaking, while being unwilling to listen and respond.
Just like what happened in Ecaudor. Ron Kangas had much to say about Steve, but when Ron is confronted there's no response.