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Originally Posted by Terry
What you've experienced is what Ohio has coined as spiritual bullying. These two brothers in particular spoke publicly and per JM privately too. However as soon as you confront them, there's no response just silence. These are the tactics of bullies. Be brothers and come together in fellowship.
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Try and look at this from the Bully's point of view. To call in some brother or sister that you rarely fellowship with to warn them of some other brother that they may or may not be aware of will cause more damage than good. Therefore they will try to do this with as few as possible, and only the ones they know that you know.
Second, it is also counterproductive to have a church wide meeting, because then saints will be asking questions, like what did he do, etc. This also could cause you to damage and lose the saints on the back row.
So they want to smear someone with inuendo, because you can pretend that it is out of a care for the brother that you are not giving any details. The best way to counter inuendo is to continue as if nothing was going on. This will force the bully to explain and clear up the confusion. If truth is on your side this is what you want, an opportunity to speak the truth.