[Nell]

FormerLC,

Here's a suggestion that you would probably NEVER hear from the LC members and/or leadership: seek professional Christian counseling.

I understand what you're saying, I think. We have all been there to one extent or another. The situation you describe with your friend is pretty complex for an anonymous forum. At one time, I needed professional counseling myself, and I found a Christian professional counselor who really helped me. Mainly she was able to ask me questions unique to my situation and point me in the right direction. It sounds like your friend needs help prioritizing where to start. A counselor will be able to help with that.

The "counsel" of the LC leadership/membership is clearly slanted and biased toward maintaining the group, not individuals who are suffering in various ways at the hands of the group.

I hope this helps.
Nell